1. Why do I feel exhausted and emotional weeks after giving birth?

Feeling tired and emotional after giving birth is very common. Birth is a significant physical and emotional event, comparable to running a marathon.

Here are some reasons for this exhaustion:

• Physical toll: Whether it’s a vaginal birth or a C-section, your body needs time to recover.

• Lack of sleep: Waking up frequently to care for your baby can affect your rest.

• Other factors: Blood loss during delivery or conditions like anaemia or thyroid issues can also contribute.

What can you do?

• Prioritise sleep when possible—even a 4-hour stretch can help.

• Seek support from family or a postpartum doula to share the load.

• If you feel something is wrong, contact your doctor to rule out medical issues.

2. How can I manage pain or discomfort in the perineal area?

The perineum (the area between the vagina and rectum) can feel sore, especially if you’ve had stitches.

Here are tips to ease discomfort:

• Use ice packs for swelling.

• Try witch hazel pads (like Tux) and a topical spray (like Dermaplast) for soothing relief.

• Rotate pain relievers like paracetamol and ibuprofen if recommended by your doctor.

• Keep the area clean by using a warm washcloth or rinsing with a hand shower.

• Sitz baths with warm water and Epsom salts can be very soothing.

When to call your doctor:

If you notice a fever, worsening pain, foul-smelling discharge, or other unusual symptoms, seek medical care immediately.

3. Why do I feel disconnected from my baby? Could it be postpartum depression?

It’s normal to feel disconnected from your baby at times. Many women experience baby blues, which include feelings of sadness or anxiety in the first two weeks after birth. However, if these feelings last longer or worsen, it may be postpartum depression (PPD).

Symptoms of PPD:

• Guilt, shame, or feeling like a bad parent

• Disconnection from your baby

• Loss of interest in activities you used to enjoy

• Feeling overwhelmed or wanting to run away

What can you do?

• Talk to your doctor for support and treatment options.

• Build a support system with family, friends, or local mum groups.

• Don’t hesitate to seek therapy or join support groups if needed.

Remember, PPD is common, and help is available. Feeling this way doesn’t make you a bad parent.

4. How can I safely regain strength and fitness after pregnancy?

Your postpartum recovery journey will depend on your pre-pregnancy activity level.

Here’s a guide to regaining strength:

• Rest: Sleep is crucial for healing and regaining energy.

• Nutrition: Focus on nutrient-rich foods with protein, fibre, and phytonutrients to support recovery.

• Gentle breathing exercises: Diaphragmatic breathing helps reconnect with your core and pelvic floor.

• Pelvic floor therapy: A therapist can help strengthen your pelvic floor and guide you back to physical activity safely.

Red flags to watch for: If you experience pain or discomfort when exercising, or if something feels off, consult your doctor. They can help rule out underlying issues.

Final Thoughts

Postpartum recovery is a vulnerable time when you need support and care. Many women share these concerns, so you are not alone. Whether you’re managing physical pain, emotional struggles, or rebuilding your strength, there are tools and resources to help you heal and feel better.

Don’t hesitate to reach out for help if you need it—your well-being matters.